DEAR DR. JENN,
My girlfriends wants sex way less than I do. It is starting to cause a lot of conflict in the relationship. How should we handle this? —Sexless in Seattle
Once a couple gets past the honeymoon stage of the relationship, usually some time between the six-month and the two-year point, there is a discrepancy between the two people’s desire for sex. Even if you both love pizza, one is going to want to eat it more often than the other. But unlike ordering pizza (where one person can grab something else off the menu if they’re not in the mood) sex requires mutual consent and participation. Plus, if your partner doesn’t want to eat pizza, you usually will not take that as a personal rejection. Sex is more complicated, for sure.